Men Take Break Ups Harder. Who Knew?

After having a discussion with a real Alpha male who insisted that Amber Rose moved on from her and Kanye’s relationship like the “man,” and that Kanye was still holding on like the “woman,” I made the comment that I didn’t think that Kanye’s reaction to the break up was abnormal. It was my observation that men usually take break ups harder than women. I was quickly corrected by the Alpha male, and he informed me that I was a woman who knew nothing about being a man. I shrugged it off because I can only take so much of having conversation with a dumbass, but I did want to do some research on the topic, because I like to be able to back my arguments up. So, I did the research, and it turns out that it’s true. Men DO take break ups harder. Here’s what I found:

(For starters, I found this hilarious picture, I just couldn’t resist using it.)

While getting a man into a relationship can often feel like pulling teeth, once he’s there, he’s there. He has invested his feelings, and he is just hoping and praying every day that he didn’t make the wrong decision. Much of this has to do with pride. Basically, no man wants to look like a fool…I mean, nobody wants to look like a fool, but men, especially. There is no wrath like that of a scorned man, (or a man that has been broken up with) because not only are his feelings hurt, but his pride is too! I was reading Men’s Health online, and this is what they had to say about why men take break ups so hard:

“One of the reasons why women can get over sour relationships faster than the  guys they break up with is that women have an amazing network of people to latch on to. Research indicates that men depend on romantic relationships for  emotional intimacy and social support, whereas women are more likely to turn to  family and female friends to satisfy those needs. Mothers, sisters, friends,  hairdressers, cabbies, whoever—the more times she tells the story about what a  jerk he was, the better she’s going to feel.”

Makes sense to me. Also,  Research conducted at Carnegie Mellon University suggests that women adjust  better to the end of a relationship because they’ve already given consideration  to the possibility of a breakup, whereas men are typically unprepared for it. An article by Michelle Beaulieu (Reuters Health, 2000) states, “In addition, divorce or marital separation more than doubled the risk of suicide in men, whereas in women, marital status was unrelated to suicide.”

To be honest, I’m not really surprised by the findings. Men are groomed from an early age to be in “control” and to have the upper hand. When things don’t go as planned, some of them can go off the deep end, and it doesn’t end up good. *sigh*

-Carma Sutra

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